Sex is actually not that important for me, i have a dildo because he bought it, and we seldom use it, i actually find these things kinky and abnormal, but i accepted the dildo, all this other stuff is going to be hard, i will post his reply tomorrow and then you can see his side and mine. I cannot list the website because this site blocks it. I would also stop short of a 3rd person if at all possible. Evidence is that there is a genetic underpinning.
They need love, not condemnation. Your husband is unique.